Have you ever thought about what you would tell the younger version of yourself if you could time travel? I truly believe you are the sum of all your life experiences, so this is not to say there are any regrets in my life at all, but if I had the one chance to pop back and tell myself a few things, this is what I’d say….
Do not ever worry what other people think: The only thoughts you can control are your own, and truly the only thoughts that matter are your own too. Focus on yourself, your own positive mindset, and all else will fall into place.
My favourite quote of recent years is, “Those that mind don’t matter, and those that matter don’t mind” this is whole heartedly true and my twenty something year old self could have done with knowing that one.
Morning Routine: It is not until the last year or two of my working life that I’ve developed a strong morning routine. Younger me never valued routine, it was go go go all the time, say yes to everything, take each day and each week as it comes. The routine I have now is invaluable for my mental health and my clarity, particularly in the mornings. How your morning goes determines how the rest of each day goes. Also, SLOW DOWN. Just slow the fuck down Phoebs.
The Power of Exercise: I was always sporty at school but when I got to London in my early twenties I very quickly became a workaholic and exercise fell by the wayside for several years. A fitness holiday in Thailand in 2018 reintroduced exercise to me in a whole new way. Daily exercise is a non negotiable in my routine now, some days it’s just an hour’s walk, some days it’s lifting a heavy barbell off the floor. I’ve also met some of the most treasured new friends in my life through fitness and training.
Networking: I must confess that I am a terrible networker, it isn’t something I particularly enjoy and I find it very difficult. I often dodged networking events, and I always avoided small talk. Why? I have no idea, but I think I blamed it on being too busy. I would tell my younger self to make more time for building my network professionally and investing in building these invaluable friendships.
Ask for Help: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Help at work, help with exercise, help with mental wellbeing, help changing a lightbulb, help with disguising a hangover at work. You don’t need to be perfect, no one expects you to be, except yourself.
Never try to disguise a hangover at work: Just be honest, they will see the funny side, and might even bring you a bacon sandwich.
Life is Short: Life is too short to do things you don’t want to do, life is too short to be around people that don’t energise you, life is too short to be miserable, life is short, it can get snatched away in an instant, and if that instant is tomorrow then be sure to live to the fullest today.